profiles

Dating:

Very fit, sexy-smart-creative-type seeks romantic, single Vancouver man in excellent physical and emotional shape for an ongoing romance -- integrity, respect, honesty, intelligence, communication and chemistry. For me, dating is to see if there is a connection, to establish communication and to look at the viability of continuing. I'm not here to go on a lot of dates with different men. If I meet someone I like, I put away my photo and stop seeking on Lava. I am looking for a lover, not a date or an encounter. What would the point of seeking when I am interested in someone I've met? I use Lavalife to my advantage; I check to see if the guy I'm interested in is back here. If he's on Lava I think: unless he's checking mail, I'm not the one he wants -- if I was, he would drop Lava and get to know me. I'm not making assumptions; maybe there is a really great reason that he's on here, but other than wanting to meet women, what would that be? The endless supply on Lavalife is seductive; when you meet someone who may be right, hey -- there may be someone out there even more right a few clicks away. But like the song says, "I'm Not Into Being the Woman You're With, While You're Looking for the Woman You Want".

When I meet the right guy, he will take a break from Lava to see if there is something between us. I'm not going to be intimate with someone who is dating, or wants to date, other women. And intimacy is what I seek. If suggesting that a man stops looking for women while he's getting to know me is such a hardship, then we aren't a match. In the time I've been here, I find this be a helpful method of separating the wheat from the chaff. I'm not into having sex with a man who is seeing other women. When did that become weird?

You live alone in Vancouver -- no kids or teens that you are responsible for. You have a job and a car. You are single and well beyond your last break-up.


I am looking to meet one man for an ongoing non-traditional arrangement; something simple, solid, sweet, caring, monogamous -- ongoing without the intention to turn it into a really big traditional dealie. A solid connection, built through honest communication and trust. Intending to create something good for both people without the expectations that result in problems. I am healthy, funny and polite. I have wonderful friends and all is well on my side. I like doing simple things -- mostly I enjoy laughing and connecting (emotionally, intellectually, physically).

If you are going to contact me, please use the word 'ongoing' so I know that you read my profile.


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If you're looking for random fun with lots of vacuous playmates, please don't contact me. I'm looking to connect with one fit, happy, smart and stable man for fun and ongoing sexy encounters.

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Moving my attention to Relationship after getting the gist of things here -- deceit and self-gratification. I've been very discriminating about who I've met from Intimate Encounters -- yet all were manipulative liars! Definitely learned a lot. Now I don't trust anyone. Great.

Considering starting something with Vancouver man of integrity -- an ongoing connection based on a mutual agreement and respect. Something that doesn't require energy in drama and negative concerns. The man: 100% single, non-smoker, non-drinker (preferably), with a car (hopefully). No
children/teens that you are responsible for. No drugs. 35 - 48 (approx). Fit, slim, muscular -- not overweight.

Employed, creative type. Out of previous relationship long enough to be feeling fine and not hooked on the hunt for the next conquest.

I work-out weight lifting a lot -- 5' 3" and 105 pounds. Non-drinker. No drugs. Content. Happy. Not needy or clingy -- into a 100% monogamous thing.




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Always a challenge to write these profiles without being reactive to the sorts of interactions experienced here in this section.

Considering starting something with Vancouver man of integrity -- relationship lite -- a non-traditional dealie, an ongoing connection based on a mutual agreement and respect. Something that doesn't require energy in drama and negative concerns. The man: 100% single, non smoker, non-drinker (preferably), with a car (hopefully). No children/teens that you are responsible for. No drugs. 35 - 48 (approx). Fit, slim, muscular -- not overweight. Employed. Creative type. Out of previous relationship long enough to be feeling fine and not hooked on the hunt for the next conquest.

I work out a couple times a week -- 5' 3" and 105 pounds. Funny, smart. No kids. Non-drinker. No drugs. Content. Happy. Complete. Not needy or clingy -- 100% monogamous.

Things I dislike are perhaps more relevant than those that I do (which include laughing, passion, positive attitude, walks) -- being told how things really are -- I didn't fall off the cabbage truck yesterday. I have lived with men, and had very good long term relationships. I also don't think platitudes are great communication -- such as: Sex is important. I don't like being insulted under the heading of "just kidding -- lighten up, you're too sensitive." I believe there are better ways to communicate than the negativity than american TV is built on. Cheap shots and lame attempts at humour don't do it for me. I take communication, language, and social and spiritual philosophies seriously. I try not to assume anything or take anything personally -- if you've considered these ideas and have attitudes along similar lines -- let's chat. I am a singer, I write novels, paint and give a lecture on underground culture.